My Best Tips To Design a Kid-Friendly Home For The Entire Family
First of all, I’m not sharing this to shame this follower or say that I completely disagree with her perspective. Instead, I think it provides an opportunity to have a discussion about what goes into creating a kid-friendly home. Here’s what she said…
Our house isn’t about the stuff that’s inside of it. It’s about the people who live here and the safety and comfort that our shelter can provide for us. This was such a good reminder about what home is really all about.
It’s All Temporary
The first thing everyone brought up was how the comment lumped young moms into this category of doing things the incorrect way. Obviously, there is no RIGHT way to decorate your home, but let’s not be condescending to moms who are currently in the trenches with young kids. No mom shaming happening over here!
I do agree that in 2023 things tend to be a tad less formal and (thankfully!) we don’t see many couches covered in plastic anymore.
Is It a Space Thing?
I don’t want my kids to think I care more about things than them. At the end of the day, our home is for all of us. It’s much easier to repair or replace things than our relationships. If that means keeping our house more kid-friendly right now, so I can focus my energy on enjoying our time together, rather than worrying about things and a mess, then it’s worth it! We’ll have a grown-up house someday, and then I’ll probably miss the chaos.
The original comment seems to treat “the home” as a single entity that must all be styled to the same degree of kid-friendliness, and I don’t find that to be true at all. I, and I would think a lot of people with young kids, make different choices based on how much I’d expect my kids to be using a certain room. In a family-oriented room, I don’t want to have to be constantly correcting my kids. But, somewhere like my office, I’m more comfortable having breakables and expensive furnishings.
I think this is a topic where everyone thinks they’re doing it better than everyone else. When in reality, we’re all pretty much doing it the same. Every family is going to adjust pieces of their home for their children’s safety and everyone is going to have boundaries around items that are off limits. Those who think “My kid needs to learn to leave it alone” forget the areas they have catered to their kids. Those who think “we should cater to kids” forget the areas where they haven’t and teach their kids it’s off limits. Because we all do both, just as it should be!
Stuff vs. Relationships
Avid follower and owner of a Montessori school for 2-6 year olds. And I’m 48 with grown kids. All this to say, I’m not in this younger mom generation and I love that parents are giving respect to their children in their homes. We set up our homes in a way to make them comfortable for visitors and I love to see more focus shifting to the smaller humans in our lives. In a Montessori classroom, children are taught to handle fragile things, but always within the scope of appropriate expectations. There are plenty of times as a mom where we HAVE to say no. I want those to be as sparing as possible, so they actually mean something. Not to deter a child from touching something special we put it at their direct eye level.
I mean this with absolutely no criticism, but why do younger moms not style their homes because of their children? I always did when my children were young. It provided opportunities to teach them how to obey, how to respect other’s belongings, etc. Of course, I wouldn’t style areas within reach with valuables, but I used to lovingly say “My children live in OUR world, we all must learn how to live with each other.” Simply curious…
Our living room is the playroom. When we switched our coffee table, I specifically chose one aesthetically pleasing, but also one that my daughter could pull a kid’s chair up to for crafts and play. If it gets beat up, that’s okay! It’s exhausting trying to keep them out of “nice stuff.”